Dear Katie: Should I Confront the Mean Girls at My Studio?

February 4, 2019

In our “Dear Katie” series, former NYCB soloist Kathryn Morgan answers your pressing dance questions. Have something you want to ask Katie? Email [email protected] for a chance to be featured!

Dear Katie,

One of the dancers at my studio is being bullied by some of the older girls. It’s getting pretty bad, but I’m not sure what to do about it. Should I confront the bullies? Talk to my teacher? Stay out of it? What would be most helpful?


Dear Emmaline,

This is a tough scenario. I think first and foremost be a friend to the girl who is being bullied. Make sure she knows that you support her, and don’t engage with the older girls. That’s what you can control, your behavior. I would not confront the bullies. That could backfire and actually lead them to taunt her more or bring you into the situation in a way you don’t want to be. If you’re going to talk to anyone, I would talk to the teacher. Maybe she can address the situation in her own way. There’s no great answer to this, however. The girl being bullied might want you to not say anything. But if you fear for her safety, be sure to speak up, because she might not.

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