Dear Katie: My Ex Goes to My Dance Studio!

November 8, 2017

In our “Dear Katie” series, former NYCB soloist Kathryn Morgan answers your pressing dance questions. Have something you want to ask Katie? Email [email protected]for a chance to be featured!

Dear Katie,

I dated a guy at my studio for almost a year, and we just broke up. It’s terrible. I don’t want to go to class, because every time I see him I feel awful. But I also don’t want this breakup to affect my training. What should I do?


Dear Jessalynn,

Having an ex in the studio can be a very difficult thing to deal with, especially as a young dancer. My advice would be to simply focus on yourself. I know that’s easier said than done, but think of it this way: If you keep your head down and work hard, you’ll end up at a good summer program or in a great company—and, more than likely, he won’t be there. This situation feels terrible now, but it won’t last forever, and your career goals are too important to sacrifice because you feel awkward.

You should be civil to your ex, but you don’t have to go out of your way to be nice to him. During class, choose a barre on the opposite side of the studio, and go across the floor in a different group. Take it one class at a time. It’s going to require a bit of a mental effort, but you can get past this!

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